I'm Sick of This Bro
Shit
2/09/10
Last
time out, I made fun of feminists
who get arbitrarily
offended by words that there isn’t really anything wrong with. And
yes, that is slightly annoying. But
to
shift our
attention to the other end
of the gender spectrum, something that is way more annoying, and which
is in my
face every ten minutes (as opposed to Academic Feminism,
which is actually
pretty
easy to avoid provided you are not on a college campus), is this
“Bro” shit. Lawd,
how I hate this Bro shit. I’m
not sure when it started. There
have
always been
assholes, there have
always been stupid people, there have always been jocks… But Bros are not
simply any or all of
these
three things. A Bro
doesn’t
necessarily have a low I.Q. A Bro
does
not necessarily play sports (he likely watches
them, but certainly many Bros are way too out of
shape to even very
charitably be considered athletes).
There
are even a few
nice Bros, or so I have heard. “Bro”
at this point is a movement. I
don’t
know
how long it’s been one. Maybe
it started when Dane Cook put out his
first album. Or
maybe it started
when
Burger King made that stupid commercial where the big fat bastard is
afraid
that eating vegetables will turn him gay or something so he takes to
the
streets with a bunch of other big fat bastards to warn the populace
with a song
about the dangers of making any effort to not be a big fat bastard,
much to the
chagrin of his lame vegetable-eating girlfriend, who is dating him for
some
reason. If you’re
unsure whether someone
you care about is a Bro, or is at risk of
becoming
one, here are the Top Ten
warning signs...
#1)
Exclusively Drinking
Beer. I’m
not ripping on beer. I
love beer,
especially
when paired with one
of the select few cuisines that go especially well with beer (German,
Mexican,
American, Japanese, Indian, Chinese, Russian, Brazilian, Thai, Polish,
Irish, Cuban,
Scottish, Moroccan, English, Ethiopian, Korean, Belgian, Hungarian,
Argentine). And I
actually side
with Bros in ripping on
those guys who never
drink beer. But
once
you’re older than, say, fourteen,
you should be drinking things besides
beer too. And not
just shots of
whiskey and vodka (and don’t drink Jaeger, ever,
it is disgusting, what’s wrong with you).
As
for categorically
rejecting mixed drinks beyond the level of
blank-and-coke or blank-and-orange-juice because you don’t
see the point of
something complicated when something simple gets you just as drunk,
really,
there comes a time when you should at least pretend
that you are not drinking to get as drunk as possible as quickly as
possible. And
then there’s wine. You
don’t
have to become a wine snob, but at
a bare minimum there is no excuse for not knowing the difference between
white
and red wine (red wine is colored with the stuff that comes out of a
gorilla’s nose
when you hang him upside-down and beat him with a baseball bat,
according to
Wikipedia). Yes,
the beverage
debate is
complicated: Bros are incorrect in saying that
you should never
order wine in a bar, but it is
true that you should only order it in
certain bars (if you have to lean over and scream your order in the
bartender’s
ear, or if there is even one pinball machine visible from where
you’re
standing, it is not the kind of bar where you may excusably order
wine). Seriously,
you should drink wine sometimes. Just
think of all you’re missing out on by
not drinking wine with the countless cuisines from all over the world
that are
so perfectly complemented by wine (French, Italian).
#2)
Psychotic
Protectiveness of Female Friends/Relatives Combined with Psychotic
Aggression
towards Female Non-Friends/Relatives.
As
a non-Bro, I think of women as,
you know, basically people: certain behavior towards them is
acceptable, and
other behavior towards them is not.
But
for
a Bro, philosophy on the fairer sex is
characterized by a profound gulf
between how women who are the sisters/cousins/roommates of him and his
friends
may be treated, and how every other woman on earth may — nay, must — be
treated. So, that
girl from last
weekend “deserved” to
be shot with a rhino-tranquilizer dart and have a train run on her on
the hood
of your boy’s Grand Cherokee because you once saw her
drinking straight whiskey
instead of Boone’s, but I’m not allowed to look
at your sister? Interesting. You
realize that other girl may well have
been someone’s si— Oh,
sorry, I didn’t
realize I was a “fag” for pointing that out.
#3)
Thinking Scarface
Is the Best Gangster Movie. No,
it’s not. I don’t
care
how much you like the poster, no it’s not. Godfather
II is better, Godfather I
is
better, Goodfellas
is better, Reservoir
Dogs is better, Mean Streets
is better, Miller’s
Crossing is better, the
original Scarface
that you don’t even
know about is better. .. Scarface
is about as good as Godfather
III or the episode of Married with
Children
where Al walks
around in a white suit with the jacket over his shoulders. Yes, Scarface
does deserve some props. After
all, if
it hadn’t been for Scarface,
the
world wouldn’t have the part where Homer Simpson paraphrases Scarface
in the episode where he finds
the pile of sugar. Or
the title for the one album of real songs
that Smashmouth made before deciding to exclusively do songs for Disney
movies. Come to
think of it, Bros also
really liked Smashmouth, which is just more damning evidence
re Bros’ taste
in the Arts: that band you thought was so awesome who named their one
hit album
after this movie you think is so awesome then immediately turned into
Randy
Newman, only they became as lame in their late twenties as Randy Newman
didn’t
become until he was like seventy.
I
can’t wait to hear their heartwarming theme song from the
upcoming Toy
Story 3,
“You’ve Got a Little Friend
to Say Hello to in Me.”
#4)
Not Noticing or Caring
about Women’s Clothes as a Matter of Avowed Policy. I’m
not saying guys need to be experts about
women’s clothes. The
only point to
knowing that womens button-down shirts have the buttons on the left
side
instead of the right is that this information will occasionally enable
you to
solve an Encyclopedia Brown mystery. (Similarly,
be aware that any female cellist
wearing a sheath skirt has either just been murdered, or is about to be
murdered.) But Bros
take this lack of
interest to an insane level. Seriously,
aggressively not caring whether your girlfriend wears high heels or
Converse is
like aggressively not caring whether your fries come with ketchup or
fermented
yak semen. This
goes double for
guys who
do not “get the point” of lingerie, which is
clearly objectively the best thing
ever. If you have
ever heard
a guy say
anything along the lines of “I don’t get it, why
wouldn’t you want the chick to
just be naked?” then this man is indisputably a Bro. Not caring about
lingerie is like not caring about
how your food gets into your stomach.
Would
Monsieur Bro
like it all mixed up in
a bucket?
#5)
That Stupid Hurty
Handshake Thing. I
know I’ve
complained about this before, but Bros are still
doing it, and it’s still
stupid. And it’s
possibly responsible
for more aggregate annoyance than anything else on this list, since
it’s the Bro
behavior that Bros persist in the longest.
Even
the biggest Bro is probably able to drink a glass of wine
without
panicking by age 45 or so, but sadly his love for the hurty handshake
thing has
only intensified. It
is like proficiency
at the hurty handshake thing is a Bro’s
life’s work. So
I’ll explain one more time: being
introduced to someone is not a competition.
Yeah,
when you manage
to quickly close your hand before the person you’re
shaking hands with can get his hand all the way lined up with your hand
so you’re
squeezing his fingers instead of the hand part of his hand,
congratulations,
you have “won” — at being a cockface.
Since
whenever you meet
someone for the first time you feel the
inexplicable need to injure that person, why not just grab his head and
scream
your name as loud as you can in his ear?
It
makes just as much
sense as trying to break his hand, and there is
even more possibility of permanent damage.
If
the Republicans run
Mitt Romney in 2012, I hope they don’t think he
will win any votes by walking around shaking people’s hands,
because I bet you
anything Mitt Romney shakes hands this way.
You
can tell just by
looking at him. My
fingers hurt just
from freaking seeing him shake someone else’s hand
on TV. Church of
Jesus Christ
of
Latter-Day Saints, my ass. More
like
Church of Jesus Christ, Why Are You Trying to Break My Fucking Hand,
You Prick,
I Just Met You?
#6)
Liking Journey, Van
Halen, and Aerosmith NOT as a Joke.
Let me make one thing
perfectly clear: those bands are awesome… but AS A
JOKE. I cannot
resist
throwing my arms
around my best friend and singing along at the top of my voice whenever
“Don’t
Stop Believing” comes on… but AS A JOKE.
“Panama”
is the closest thing the human mind has yet achieved to a four
and a half minutes of pure sonic orgasm… but AS A JOKE.
Whenever
I hear “Cryin’,”
“Amazing,” or “Crazy,”
I cut open my hand and draw a pentagram on the floor in my own blood to
try and
summon the devil so I can gladly offer up my soul to whatever torments
he
chooses to devise for all eternity if he would grant me just 45 seconds
of slow
dancing in 1993 with Alicia Silverstone on the edge of that trestle
bridge… but
AS A JOKE. What is
wrong with you Bros? Don’t
you
know you are only allowed to like
those bands AS A JOKE?! By
the way, a
child born when those three videos were in heavy rotation is now older
than
Silverstone was in the videos. Really
makes
you think… about how 2010 minus 1993 equals 17.
Basic
math: cosmic.
#7)
Wearing Shorts as an
Adult. Self-explanatory. Bonus
if it is with a jacket and tie. Double
bonus if he is
also wearing a baseball
cap with the shorts and the jacket and tie.
Triple
bonus if the
shirt he is wearing under the jacket is tucked into
his underpants instead of in between his underpants and his shorts.
#8)
Thinking Jennifer
Aniston Is the Hottest Friend.
There
are many ways to spot a Bro when it comes to
taste in women (Megan Fox, the
daughter from 24,
Buffy over Willow),
but nothing has ever topped this as the true litmus test. I
realize Friends
wrapped years ago, but it’s still rerun all day long,
everyone still knows what
it is, and guys still argue about who’s the hottest chick on
it. And today, just
as when
the show was new and
I was in high school, a Bro inevitably thinks
that Aniston is a goddess and
rates the other two not at all. Balls. Almost
uniformly, smart guys initially liked
Lisa Kudrow the best, and then switched to Courteney Cox after the
first couple
seasons. This is a
generalization of
course, but one thing is sure: no-one who is not a Bro ever
had
Aniston at #1
at any point, and no-one who is a Bro ever had
anyone but Aniston there. I
do not get
that at
all. Courteney Cox
is a
model, Jennifer Aniston is
a cheerleader, and models are hotter than cheerleaders.
Maybe Bros just liked her character
the
best, but this makes no sense either because her character was the most
annoying character. Don’t
get me
wrong: her
character was annoying because she was written to be, and Aniston did a
very
good job of playing that annoying character, and was mad funny when she
guested
on 30 Rock. But
the point of that character was that she
represented the “sweet”
girly-girl next door who is
neither too smart (like
Cox’s character) nor too weird (like Kudrow’s).
And Bros live for that shit, and
non-Bros hate it. And
I super-do-not-get
why I keep seeing Aniston on lists of the celebrities with the best
legs. She is
5’4’’, and her legs look like the legs of that girl who
shows up to the party in a bicycle helmet and then ties her bicycle
helmet to
her backpack and spends the whole party
talking about
how she rides a bicycle.
#9) Being
“Against”
Vibrators. There
are certainly other Bro traits that more greatly inconvenience
me
on
a day-to-day basis, but all
things considered this Bro trait may be the
saddest of them all. Ever
suggest to a guy
who’s looking for a
sexy gift for his girl that he visit a sex-toy shop, only to have him
launch
into a speech about how “No way” because he
“can’t compete with that shit” and
it is “better if chicks just don’t know about
it?” Then the
person you
were talking to is a Bro.
And
if you have ever seen someone actually
make this speech directly
to a woman’s
face, then this man is a Bro among Bros. And
if, while making said speech directly to a
woman’s face, he was thorough enough to inform her that is
her “responsibility”
not to get “all stretched out,” then my word, you
have actually made contact with
one of the Great Old Bros, who lived ages before
there were any men, and who
came to the young world out of the sky.
Ph’nglui
mglw’nafh Bro R’lyeh
wgah’nagl
fhtagn!
#10)
Homophobia to the
Point of Near-Schizophrenic Detachment from Reality. Even
regular old “normal” homophobia is
wrong, but it is usually not funny. Bro-brand
homophobia, on the other hand, is frequently as hilarious as
it is baffling. Hell,
half the other
traits on this list are just side-effects of it, from refusal to care
about
shoes to insistence upon violent handshakes.
But
seriously, Bros, by pretending you honestly can’t
tell whether Jude
Law is any more attractive than the guy who played Newman on Seinfeld,
you are not making everyone in
the room think you’re super-super-straight so much as
you’re making them think
you were in a terrible accident that left you with a very specific type
of
brain damage. It’s
okay, Bros — admitting
you can comprehend
why people who are
attracted to men would
be attracted to Johnny Depp is
not
magically going to make gay dudes fall from the sky and spirit you off
to go
antiquing with Lady Gaga. But
maybe Bros
just feel they have to act this way to counterbalance the myriad stuff
they do
that they seem to think is sick butch but actually, well, raises more
questions
than it answers. Like
when frats play
that game where they all jack off on a cookie and the last guy to
spooge has to
eat it. Or the
ritual where a
pledge has
to drink a beer that’s been poured through an
upperclassman’s buttcrack (and
not into
a cup, mind you, but directly
from the buttcrack). So
these things are not
gay but, say, going
to a museum is? Wow. Hats
off, Bros. Hats
off.
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